Do you choose your friends?

When I was a kid, my mother always chooses whom I am going to be friends with. When I was in high school, she always invite my friends at home, she asked them about their parents, family, where they come from and everything. And that really frustrates me sometimes, because some of my friends complain like they feel being interrogated and she scared them.  So most of the time, I keep my new friends away from my mother, and I rarely talk to her about them. So then I learn to choose whom I am with, and mostly end up with the not so good one, although I learn so many things from them, like drinking, smoking, and partying.  Those times, I remember what my mother told me, it was taken from 1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”  Yes, she’s right, no matter how good I am, no matter how I believe myself to be strong enough to do right and avoid doing bad things but still end up doing them. But thanks to God he showed me the right path. Now is the time, I can say I know how to stand my belief from good and bad. Well, I guess because I am matured enough and I learn to live life to the fullest.  

So now, my thoughts will be about friends and friendship. I hope you will have a great time. Always remember to smile and be happy. Just breathe…  May God Bless us always!

How to truly live our life?

There’s a saying that goes “Life is too short, wear your passion and live your dream,” and then there’s other one from Tuesdays with Morrie, says “once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.”  Those two inspiring thoughts tap me with doubting beliefs if we truly know how to live. Does wearing passion and living your dreams are enough to live a life without regrets?  Do you ever imagine yourself dying without regrets?  I myself, didn’t know how to actually live my life until one day, I almost hit by car while crossing the streets.  I thought I was going to die and that was very scary because I don’t ever think that death would smack me that very moment.  Then I realized how bad I live my life and I said God! That’s the first word that comes out to my mouth and my family was the first thing that comes to my mind. The feeling and experience of almost dying change my whole perspective in life. It made me into someone who’s more loving and compassionate to others and someone who believes in greater power up above.

I am not alone having those more likely the same kind of experience, for I know some of you probably come across with that kind of situations. And I heard someone who just passed away a month ago.  I actually didn’t know the person personally; it was a friend of mine who narrate me his life story.  It was about a successful guy, mid forties, who’s in peak of his life, got everything, wealth, fame and power.  He felt he was totally in control of the whole thing, until he was diagnose with stage four lung cancer. That moment then he said he learns how to live for he learn how to die. He interpret the true meaning of passion, the passion on loving and serving others, the passion on helping and understanding people’s feeling and most importantly the passion of being grateful to God and acknowledged His blessings and talent he gives to everyone of us for we owe everything to Him. It was a very sad story, yet inspiring for he learns the true meaning of passion.  Sometimes we learn the hard ways, but the good thing is we often end up learning to do what is good and what is right. Although there are those times when it’s too late for others to amend and too late to do what is best.  So this kind of story reminds us that Life is short, wear the passion of love and live our dream.

How to understand Changes

Change" is one of the word I often heard by many people, change for government, change for job, change of plans,change for partners and relationships and many other things that one person wish to change in a moment if possible. Change is a very complex and wide topic, and what I am going to emphasized is the reasons that hold people from changes. Well first some people find it hard to change simply because they think and believe they know what they're doing and they don't want other people tell them what to do, these are those what they called as closed minded individual. Second, is the fear of changes, stepping into unfamiliar ground can be very challenging, and not everyone enjoy challenges, the feeling of losing control of the things you used to is quite difficult to accept. And finally is contentment, it's the word that people find it hard to live and believe its existence and possibilities, some people who already find happiness and contentment with what they have and what they're doing on their life, won't accept changes no matter what you do.

In order to understand why changes seems hard and impossible, let me think and expressed the other side. We all know how hard is it to change our own thoughts and beliefs on certain things, so how much more on trying to change other people? Being open minded helps us to grasp the situation we are trying to change, since we are dealing with people whom we love and care, so it's very much important that we must learn to know the person in a more profound and deep manner, like putting ourselves into their shoes in order for us to understand why changes can't be difficult for them. Change is like looking yourself at the mirror, if you don't like what you see then do something. Change first, so there's greater possibility that others will do the same thing. If you want others to understand and accept your advice for a change, then try to figure it out to yourself, weigh it down and begin. No matter what kind of changes you want to happen it always begins in you. Always open you heart, not just your eyes and your mind for it gives limits. As one of the famous philosopher, Søren Kierkegaard said, "Prayer does not change God, but it changes him who prays."

I hope you have a wonderful weekend.   Thank you for reading my blog and always remember to smile and be happy for it's the best changes you give to yourself and to others.  May  God  Bless us all!